So, I was from one of those “you will sit there until bedtime if you don’t eat” upbringings. I’m not fat, but I soon learned that just shoving it all in even if I wasn’t hungry made Mom and Dad infinitely happier than seeing me pouting at the table all night. From there comes my emotional eating that I have attempted to control my entire adult life.
I do blame that mindset, although not my parents who truly did what they thought was best at the time. This is obvious to me because my second sister and I have always had weight issues, whereas my youngest sister has always been quite thin (same body type) and never relied on food as a crutch. My Mom admits that they realized maybe they should have dealt with my second sister and I differently and changed their approach with the youngest.
So here is my question to all of you? What are your parenting choices when it comes to eating habits? Do they change (and how) as your child develops emotionally? Do you ever resort to food as a reward (other than “potty treats” which I think are a very different story)?
My daughter is closing in on three and while I work part-time she attends a local daycare 2-3 days per week. I give her lots of fruit and veggies and low-fat yogurt. I basically feed HER the way I wished I had the gumption to eat myself. Her teachers are amazed. They have never seen such a thorough and healthy eater.
When she arrives home at around 5:00 I hang out with her and then cook dinner. She rarely eats more than a few bites of veggies and maybe some rice or veggie burger (she isn’t a big fan of meat and it helps us to cut some of it out). She prefers to sit with us for ten minutes or so and then she’s off – busy! busy!
I’m fine with this because she eats so well throughout the day and I know kids won’t starve themselves (at least not normally and she is very healthy). My hubby thinks she should be expected, even if not hungry to sit there with us the whole dinner. I think he’s nuts. She is only two and oh my God, to sit still that long is tough for me sometimes let alone a toddler.
Now this is (bless his otherwise sweet and loving soul – hell, it IS almost Father’s Day don’t forget) the man who if there is some (and I mean ANY) sporting event from golf to basketball (super ick!) to baseball to Nascar (Go Dale Jr! OK I’m on board with this one) on television he goes against the rule we decided on of the television OFF during dinner. I can’t WAIT until we move and can’t see the stinkin TV from the table! That will be the end of that. (Who am I kidding – then the plates will head for the living room… tune in someday soon for a rant about HOW parents can stop undermining each other).
My suggestion is we talk about her day and ask her questions and establish a dinner “relationship” and when she’s done and off to play then we actually take a few minutes to talk to each other – IMAGINE THAT!
Just looking for comments on how all of you deal (or have dealt) with this.
And check back tomorrow if interested in the very weird poopy I’m sure we will experience.
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